i've never had to face too many death siutations in my life. I've lost one uncle..but i was really young then ..so it dint really affect me that much.. the only other time it happned was when i lost my old man abt 3 yrs ago..and i was totally shattered. but guess being the first born..it was kinda up to me to look after my kid bro and my mom ... and that really helped me get through it and now, more than anytime ever, i blv things happen for a reason and i trust god to give you and everybody the strength to get past the death and see the wonderful life u have with the friends and family who are still with you and love u so very much.
You just deal with it in your own way, which I think is the gist of what most people above had said. I don't exactly to say that you get used to it because its something that you should never get used to, but that is what has happened to me over the years. I've had relatives and close friends dying for as long as I can remember, in fact, I just received an e-mail from my brother that someone I graduated with died yesterday because their car was taken out by a Semi. There are just several different ways that people can die, and each way can elicit a different response. For example, if a relative had a severe illness like cancer for many years before they died, you know what's coming because you can see them slowly fading, and one day they're just not there. Others go out so quick that you don't even really grasp that they are gone, whether it be a car accident, drowning, being shot, or suicide which are all things I've lost friends too. You just realize one day when you have something that you really want to tell them that they won't be there when you go over or call. But by far the worst is when you've been in a situation where you consider yourself responsible for something that has happened to another person. That doesn't go away no matter what anybody says. This has happened to me, and even though everybody around me at the time said that there was nothing I could do, I still blame myself. This didn't mean to turn into such a long boring post, but was just meant to illustrate that the way in which a person goes out of your life can determine what effect it will have on you. At this point, I think I'm rambling, so I'll just shout up now.
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im one of those mellow guys who walks around in a half daze most of the time, drowning everthing out with music and games,
that is a recipie for disaster. ( i know )
These kinds of issues dont disapear (or drown). They get buried and fester like an infected splinter.
Whether you think you need to or not, see a counselor. The health center here on campus has a psych that you can talk to (free!). Dont worry about the stigma that society has put on people who seek help. Talking to a prof. really helps.
The reason i say this is because you may have no problems now,...but 6 years from now it could resurface and decend upon you like the plauge.
Suicide is only the ultimate effect of depression. you could find yourself experiencing more subtle effects such as remorse, anger, sadness... towards people that have nothing to do with your original injuries (loss of somany loved ones). And you may not know why you have these feelings,... only the vauge assumption that it is probably becuase of the deaths in your past.
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that is one of the most depressing and scary things i have ever watched.
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well with all you behind me, y dont u all become my counsolers, peer consolers are the best after all.
dont worry to much ive got to much to live for to ever think of commiting suicide again, much less going though with it. only once did it cross my mind and only that one time did i almost go though with it, but that was probabbly the lowest point in my life, and i tured away from the easy solution. i like making it hard on myself, y would i take teh easy out and just commit suicide.
i mean common, nuc e and mech e with minors in math and physics.
now all i have to work onis my dam lazyness problems, oh yea and the insomniac narcplesy problems
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